No is a boundary-setting word. It creates a healthy relationship with yourself and others. When you abandon your responsibilities to take almost every request into your hands, it’s most likely you highly value others more than yourself. You are walking in a dangerous path that leads to self-destruction; and might make you vulnerable to feelings of stress, resulting in being overwhelmed and burned out.
Some people will not be pleased with you when you set boundaries. They will try to violate them to test your seriousness. Giving in to them will summon bitterness and resentment. It is vital to keep the company of friends who will respect your boundaries.In our world, the word yes is more embraced than no.
Advertisements are more geared to the yes. Most motivational talks lean more to the name, yes. Failure to use the word yes more often might guilt trip you, sabotaging success in your life and goals. Using yes instead of no can mess you up due to overcommitment of your time, energy, and finances.
When you fail to use the word no, you are disrespecting yourself. You are clearly saying to yourself, “I respect others more than I respect myself.” This attitude can most likely lower your self-esteem, making you feel helpless, miserable, and misused.
When you lack the will to inject the powerful boundary-setting word no, your plate will overflow with unfinished demands because you have overspread yourself too thinly, affecting your sense of fulfillment and integrity.
The word yes relates to opportunities.
Having a precise understanding of your purpose in life, goals, and objectives enhances your ability to discern a genuine opportunity versus time suckers. People who lack this discernment ends saying yes to every opportunity that knocks at their door. They end up putting their energy into insignificant, less important things and have no time for meaningful, unique options.Gathering the courage to say no to time-suckers without unnecessary explanation opens your eyes to real genuine opportunities and says yes to them.
Failure to know your value sabotages your progress.
Step out of the people’s pleasing atmosphere, and start taking tiny steps in practicing the word no, without fear of criticism and threat to losing relationships.
Beatrice Ndura is a Mental Health Coach, a writer, and the host of Musings Podcast, that addresses mental, emotional, and spiritual health.
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